Dialogue and fruitful collaboration in the education of their children
The parent-educator relationship must be very fruitful and there is an excellent opportunity to materialize it through the tutor or tutors. Do not wait until your child has special educational needs or has exhausted all his teaching resources before you start talking with his teacher who will guide him and follow him closer.
If you have followed the above tips, when you sit down with your tutor you will have a lot of information about school activities, your child's attitudes, potential problems, etc. This advantage will be decisive. But let us give you some important tips beforehand:
- Consider the tutor your ally. Listen to it carefully, treat it with the utmost consideration. Don't contradict him the first time. Even if you brag about knowing your child like no one else. Treat it like a professional, as you would like to be treated in your professional field. Follow the advice a veteran student gives his child: How to get along with teachers.
- Show your real interest. Use what you know about your child to show that you have the greatest real interest. Show him that you are aware of every day at school, do it with respect, asking him for advice, guidance. Ask him how you can help the teachers (motivation, behavior, homework, exams ...).
- Take an interest in your child's attitude and all kinds of details. Encourage him to tell you his important and qualified point of view, ask him for details: his distractions in class, his lack of attention in this or another subject, his favorite subjects, his habits, his friends and his relationships, if he is shy in class, if he is outgoing, his difficulties with mathematics, language, etc. You have a lot to learn from your child when you don't see him. When children have to function outside the family environment they experience changes that parents are unable to imagine.
- Frequent and fluid contact. Win the sympathy and friendship of your child's tutors and teachers. They will allow you to maintain frequent contact with those who owe your best allies. They will be decisive in many things and especially in something as decisive as the education of their children. Be understanding, be on their side even if you do not share some of your insights or points of view, take some time to analyze them better and see if they are right or not. Many tutors change their point of view if they see in the parents a complicity and a positive attitude towards their educational work.
In most cases it is important that the children know the content of the conversations. Especially in the aspects on which we have insisted: the student must be aware that their studies are important; they make you feel like "the protagonist of every day".
Many parents jump when if their son scores a goal in a football game or laughs at him and is happy with a grace or nonsense that he says and, however, does not reward with his time and interest the enormous learning effort he must make in mathematics, language, languages, knowledge of the environment, etc. etc.
Congratulate your child profusely for what he does well and for the good things his teachers say about him. With their help, set a challenge for what you have difficulty with.
Show your tutor that you are your ally.